Unspoken Betrayal
Dina and Maurice, Laman and Jamil,
I am so angry, so disgusted, so furious at you that I am unable speak to you directly for fear of losing my control! Who made you judge and jury of Kelly’s actions? You are a bunch of two-faced hypocrites! When Kelly came into the synagogue the first time after he and Andréa broke off that Sabbath, you all immediately surrounded her and turned your backs on him as if to protect her from an assault from him! He felt like you had thrust a knife into his heart. He does not deserve such cruel behavior.
Have you ever seen him hit anyone? Isn’t he one of the first people to help others? Have you ever heard him use any obscene language? No you haven’t! But Maurice, your vulgar language leaves little to the imagination. And you Jamil, you pretend to be such a fine person, but your insincerity shines right through the cracks in your character! So why this indignant outrage that he and Andrea broke up? If either of your wives, or I had behaved the way Andrea had behaved, neither of you, nor my dear late husband would have tolerated it. We would have been tossed out of the house without any further ado!
You all would have thrown out the culprit without thinking twice about it! I remember once, Maurice when your cousin was president and Dina was on his board, she came home late from a meeting. In a loud booming voice, on a Shabbatt morning, you ranted and raved and asked your cousin what he was doing with “merati?” Your behavior was immature and inappropriate, I am not even considering how embarrassed Dina must have felt. She had done nothing! Whereas, Andrea began leaving at 3:30 in the morning and coming back at 8 p.m. Her excuse was that it was Christmas season. Her next step was to stay overnight at her studio from Monday till Friday. Why? She had a car. The drive home was at the most fifteen minutes, not even that! One day Kelly finished what he had to do early in the evening. He called her that and told her that he would pick her up and they could go home together. She replied that if he came, she would not let him in! So he went home to an empty house. Is that appropriate behavior? Would any of you have tolerated it? I don’t think so!
Andrea began to call him a liar constantly. The reason was because he did not put the house jointly in both their names. When she was in Argentina, they had a habit of calling each other every morning before the sun was out. Kelly has a booming voice. I would wake to the sound of their conversation. One day I texted him after they spoke. I inadvertently texted her as well. She immediately texted me back, saying, “Just because you cannot sleep, others need to sleep!” This was before she even arrived to marry him! You would have thought she would wish to behave more pleasantly to her future mother in law! That brought up plenty of red flags in my mind, especially as I knew she has a history of going in and out of marriage quite casually. There was NO WAY she was going to immediately become co-owner of the house that he bought. There was no way she would be allowed to put even a penny towards it. Kelly is very pure-hearted. He needed to be protected. She began calling him a liar. To call him that incessantly, leads me to believe that she has been called a liar frequently. Why else would she do that!
She accused him of having anger issues. At this moment I am the one having GREAT ANGER ISSUES! My anger is not against her, for she is the product of her upbringing, whatever that is. My anger is against the lot of you, for you all know what an honorable and upstanding person Kelly is, yet you couldn’t resist being petty and hurtful and amusing yourselves at his expense! Sadly, you have all lost respect in my eyes. And yes, that makes me feel very, very sad. I once considered you dear my friends and family, but no more…
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